When Things Don't Go As Planned

We would like to give an update to all those who have been following our adoption journey. We know that humanity has a strong desire to know all the details and that you may have questions, but we are going to ask that you please acknowledge that we do not really have answers to our own questions, and would like people to refrain from asking us for more information at this time.


At this time we don’t have any more information on the baby. We know that the due date was over a week ago, and with not hearing anything we have many questions of our own. We can only assume at this time that the birth mother has backed out of the process. We have no reasons as to why nor have we actually heard anything that would tell us this, minus the fact we have no information on the baby. There was no signs in advance, and this couldn’t have been seen in advance because that’s just not how things work in these type of situations.


The sad part about this situation is that it happens. We wouldn’t say that it did not scare us throughout the process, but at the same time we had to act as if we were going to receive a baby boy at the end of January in order that we would have everything ready to go if we got the phone call to go to the hospital. We made the preparations that we had to because we had to be prepared.


We know that we had so much support and we thank you for all those who shared the excitement of welcoming a baby into our family. We understand that you might feel disappointed and a variety of other emotions from the news, and we are feeling all those too. You may want to ask questions, and we ask that you please refrain. At this time, we are hurting. We walk past the baby room in order to go to bed and when we wake up, we have a plush monkey swing in our living room that the dogs like to sniff, and we have other daily reminders of what did not happen. We do not hate the birth mom for her decision, but pray for her health and wellbeing.


Thank you, everyone who joined us on this journey. The journey is not over. We are still pursuing adoption as a way to grow our family, and so the journey continues. As life is full of curves, mountains, and valleys, we know this is just part of process as we trek onward. We know God holds the world in his hands, we know God holds the birth mother and her baby in his hands, and we know that all of us are dearly loved by our Father in Heaven.